The 'L' Word

We've all been there, your with someone, you've been on going out for a while now, and it hits you. You have the feeling to say the 'L' word. But what if it's too soon to say that, or maybe they never have or will love you? All these thoughts fly by in an instant and it slips out, 'I love you.' Now you've done it and you can't take it back. So, do they tell you the same thing, or feel uncomfortable and leave, never to return again? I suppose that all depends on the person...

In 2005 1,181 women were murdered by an intimate partner (that's about 3 women per day!)But for women who profess their love between the ages of 15 to 24 are at the highest risk to be murdered by their lover if they leave them. But for women between 25 to 34 this percentage drops by 25%, and keeps declining as they get older and older. According to David M. Buss, he believes this is because younger women are more fertile, reproductively valuable, and this leads to a greater reproductive loss for the man if she left him. And from the man's perspective, he loses his mate, and that loss becomes a rivals' reproductive gain. This, he says, we learned from evolution. I don't necessarily disagree with that claim, but I think it's a bit more than that.

We all had our first real relationship, that one we thought would last forever, only to be left heartbroken when they left for one reason or another. I think what makes girls ages 15 to 24 at such a higher rate of being killed by an angry ex is because when we are in our teens and early 20's that our first time for a lot of things-love being one of them. I think that when someone has never had a broken heart before, some of us can pick up the pieces, get over it, and move on to someone else, but some just can't. I think this is what leads men to killing their ex. Because who do you know that just had their relationship end say, 'I'm gonna get her back because her reproductive value is very high.' ? I sure haven't heard that one before, but maybe I just associate with primitive people? Wait.....?